Relying on Pope Benedict XVI second encyclical letter entitled Spe Salvi (In hope we are saved), Don Paul Denizot stresses that we can do good to our deceased, even after death:
Such an amazing gift that our faith enables us to do!
“(…) However, the souls of the departed can obtain “solace and refreshment” from the Eucharist, prayer and almsgiving. The belief that love can reach into the afterlife, that reciprocal giving and receiving is possible, in which our affection for one another continues beyond the limits of death—this has been a fundamental conviction of Christianity throughout the ages and it remains a source of comfort today. Who would not feel the need to convey to their departed loved ones a sign of kindness, a gesture of gratitude or even a request for pardon? (…).” (# 48)
Spe salvi (In hope we are saved, 30 November 2007) | BENEDICT XVI
Death does not
“(…) Therefore the union of the wayfarers with the brethren who have gone to sleep in the peace of Christ is not in the least weakened or interrupted, but on the contrary, according to the perpetual faith of the Church, is strengthened by communication of spiritual goods (…)” (#49)
“My deceased beloved does not belong to my past but my future”
Rev. Fr. Don Paul Denizot interview on French Catholic KTO TV Channel on 1st November 2019.
To thank a deceased person
It is essential to express our gratitude to our beloved departed: for their existence, for who they were, for what they taught us, for the good times we shared, etc. Just as essential as expressing to the living why we love them.
In order to ask forgiveness from or to offer forgiveness to a deceased person
He is deceased, she is departed. You did not find time to thank him/her. I could not ask him/her for forgiveness… In the communion of saints, we believe that we can still reach out to them and that the love bond is not severed. It continues beyond death.
At the shrine of Montligeon, writing a postcard to a deceased one is simple. You merely have to take a “Thank You/Sorry” card, fill it in and deposit it in the “mail box” located beneath the statue of Our Lady of Deliverance, in Montligeon Basilica.
Then pray to Our Lord, through Mary’s intercession, to let your deceased know of your gratitude, or of your request for forgiveness.
You can also download and print it, and send it to the shrine, at your convenience, by postal or electronic mail.