A loved one is dying

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I feel helpless

A loved one is dying and I can’t be at his (her) bedside…

Such a situation causes distress. However, Christian faith offers much hope. For we believe that through prayer we can unite with the loved one who is about to pass away.

Don Paul Denizot

Despite distance, I can be close to my dying beloved

Prayer enables me to unite with people, the living and the dead. Thus through prayer and love I can also unite with people who are about to pass away.

Despite the physical distance that keeps us apart, I can touch the heart of my loved one by asking the Lord to comfort him (her), bring him (her) solace, and let him (her) know that I love him (her).

Indeed we believe that the love we have for one another and uniting us, comes from God, and that this relation remains alive, despite distance, grief, and even beyond death.

This is the very testimony of Saint Faustina who used to pray for – and was present in spirit to – the agonizing. She got them to trust in Divine Mercy as they were in their passing away.   

Alike St Faustina, I too can pray to God to spiritually reach a familiar (or a stranger) who is on the verge of dying: “Lord, help me unite with him (her) in my presently difficult situation; I petition on his (her) behalf, seeking to help bring him (her) comfort, consolation, and peace; pray receive him (her) in your Kingdom.

Moreover, through praying in the communion of saints, we believe that the Blessed Virgin Mary, our Mother, the angels, and all the saints come to us at our beloved’s bedside as he (she) is about to meet with Love Itself.
Love is stronger than death.

To support you, the Shrine of Montligeon
issued two leaflets of prayer (to download freely)

A loved one is dying
A loved one is dying
A loved one passed away
A loved one passed away
The shrine of our lady of Montligeon - Praying the Rosary for the deceased with Montligeon
Praying the Rosary for the deceased

Keeping close ties with the departed?

(…) How one would love to be able to still exchange a few loving words with one’s spouse, child, father or mother, grand-parent, brother, sister, friend who has passed away… Don’t we long sometimes to chat with them a bit, tell them about our daily life, or to ask them for advise? Beside some might still nurture regrets or remorse: “If only I could have told him (her) that I loved him (her), forgave him (her) or that I wanted to ask him (her) for forgiveness. It’s too late now!” Such figuring could lead to some kind of resignation and even to despair.

Confronted with death, a common reaction is to search for answers and hints. One can neither resign to the ultimate victory of death nor forsake the loving ties that one had entertained. “Dead for good, who can ever assure it?” wrote Marcel Proust.

Deep within, one cannot but hope in an after life, where one will be reunited with departed loved ones.

Christian faith offers a decisive and solid answer to bereaved people’s anguish: death has been overcome, once and for all, by Christ’s death and resurrection. God, who is Life and Love, prevails and we anticipate to one day find our loved ones with Him. Moreover we believe that the love bond that unites us with our deceased does not suffer intermittence in death. Quite the opposite, the love connexion remains indeed real and alive, even though invisible for a time, alike faith. Alive, it continues to develop. Thus, by means of good deeds and prayer in my daily life I can make this bond of love grow ever more, beyond death. Hence I may still touch the heart of my loved ones, express my gratitude or ask for their forgiveness.

It is never too late to express gratitude to or ask for forgiveness from a deceased…

Christians believe that, through prayer, one can still express one’s gratitude to a deceased person or ask for his (her) forgiveness.

Thank him (her) for what he (she) meant to us, for what he (she) imparted, etc.

Ask him (her) for forgiveness for the wrongs we may have caused him (her), for our lack of love.

Express forgiveness for his (her) lack of love, or for the wounds he (she) may have caused us.

An essential step for the living too!

Click & download the card. Fill it in, and return it by postal or electronic mail to
[email protected]
We’ll place it in the appropriate box beneath beside the high altar.

The “Sorry/Thank you” card

Say "Thank you" or, "Forgive me", to a deceased

I can enroll loved ones, whether deceased or living, in the spiritual Fraternity of Our Lady of Montligeon

Enrolling people in the spiritual Fraternity of Our Lady of Montligeon means offering them perpetual Mass celebrated at the shrine on a daily basis.

The shrine prays for the deceased ever since 1884

The prayer core at the shrine of Montligeon is the Eucharist. As from 1884, the prayer for the dead, and especially for all the deceased recommended to the Fraternity de Montligeon. Today still, one can enroll oneself or a loved one – whether deceased or still living – to the Fraternity.

Prayer to Our Lady of Deliverance

Prière à Notre-Dame de Montligeon
Notre-Dame de Montligeon

Prayer to Our Lady of Montligeon

Our Lady of Deliverance,
Have compassion on all our departed,
Especially those who are most in need of the Lord’s mercy.
Intercede for all those who have gone before us
And may the purifying love of God lead them to full deliverance.
May our prayer, united with the prayer of the whole Church,
Obtain for them joy beyond all their desires,
And bring consolation and relief to our loved ones
in their suffering and distress. 
Mother of the Church, help us, pilgrims on earth,
to be better in living each day of our journey towards the Resurrection.
Help us to become of the Unseen God,
Heal the wounds of heart and soul.
Seeking already what the eye cannot see. 
Grant us the grace to become apostles of hope,
like those who keep vigil awaiting the dawn.
Refuge of sinners and Queen of all Saints,
Gather us all together one day, in our Father’s House,
For the eternal Easter, through Jesus Christ our Lord,
In the unity of the Holy Spirit. Amen.

Our Lady of Montligeon, pray for the Souls in Purgatory.

Imprimatur: + Msgr J.-C. Boulanger – 31st May 2007


Sanctuaire Notre-Dame de Montligeon, 150 km à l’ouest de Paris.

Located 93 miles from Paris, in the Diocese of Seez, Normandy (France),  deep within the gorgeous Perche Natural Park, you will find a unique shrine: that of Our Lady of Montligeon, altogether world center of prayer for the deceased, beacon of Christian hope, a place of solace for bereaved people or undergoing burn-out. Every year, it hosts thousands of pilgrims and visitors who come on a personal quest to find consolation and hope, or to entrust their beloved deceased ones to Our Lady Liberatrix ( of Deliverance).

Contact us

Reception desk: 00 33 2 33 85 17 00
Email : [email protected] 

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